It is amazing what happens to human beings within the first minute of being born. Your name, your race (granted that was decided when you were conceived, unless daddy is in for a "surprise"), your language (will most likely be combination of your parents' and where you live), your religion (a big one) your nationality (i.e. the passport you are going to carry), and, in some cases, your parents have already decided (if they have the means) which college you are going to attend as well. The list does not end with the above but I think the idea is clear.
Most of us sped our lives "playing for a team" that we did not even choose; that includes your own brothers and sisters. Most of us do not have the courage to step outside the "cult" we have been born to; but rather we act as if this was "our choice" from the get go. Based on external circumstances you can end up like Obama in the White House ordering drone missile strikes at will, or with Al-Shabaab on the receiving end of these missiles.